“Just remember to only describe the processes you want to work well!”

In today’s newsletter, Dylan Fitzgerald talked about how he changed his behavior thanks to a single sentence.

Let me quote Dylan:
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I became a consistent flosser with a single passing sentence from a dental assistant:
“Just remember to only floss the teeth you want to keep!”

Oooof. That landed heavy: the flipped framing cut through years of semiconsciously shrugging off similar but ultimately ineffective advice.

Why? What’s so much more effective in this structure and framing?

  • There’s no “should”. No blame, no shame, no judgment.
  • The consequences are clearly laid out—not to induce fear, but not avoided, either.
  • There’s a little bit of cheek.

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Dylan knew he should floss his teeth because that’s good for his health.
Yet he didn’t start doing it unless the assistant phrased it a certain way.

His story inspired me to reframe the assistant’s sentence and share some advice with you.

So if I were to give you one advice, I would say:
“Just remember to only describe the processes you want to work well!”